This type of question often arises out of a confusion of where to place our attention. The secret is: Not to place attention so much on oneself! We complicate our lives with overthinking and analyzing, rather than learning how to tap into spontaneity and the aliveness of what is needed in any given moment.
When we move beyond our own individual concerns and learn to embrace the concerns of others and of the world as our own, the self center that causes so much individual suffering is eased. What becomes revealed is that we are in fact all of life. A deep caring for the whole emerges the more that we realize that we are all interconnected.