Suffering is a clue, your own personal koan, that something has been placed outside of yourself. Suffering arises when we imagine that having things outside of ourselves is going to alleviate our longing for wholeness. This becomes a habit of mind. Trace all projections back to the place where imagination was birthed, back to the emptiness that you really are.
Seeking begins as soon as we feel that we have lost something, and the root of it begins in childhood. Beginning first with the birth of the sense of “I” when we are very young, and then later over the course of one’s childhood, we lose the felt sense of connection to source. Naturally, we long for what we feel we have lost, and we innocently and mistakenly run after things imagining that what we are missing will be found in things outside of ourselves. All the while, what we long for is inside of us, ever present, always available.